Something I need to get off my chest….

I apologize to those of you that are expecting an update for ADL.  But I felt the need to discuss this guest review and I know of no other way to do this.  I’ve gotten to a point that I just ignore guest reviews, but this one frankly deserves a response.

“If I do an outtake of the “punishment” Eric has for Sookie, I will only post it on this site due to harassment from anonymous reviewers that police .net looking for anything overly sexual.” There is a difference betwen sexual abuse and “overly sexual” situations and it is too bad you don’t know what that is. Your kind is part of what is making sexual abuse a normal thing since you want to make it ok. You dont have to abuse women or put them down to write a nice story. – Guest reviewer

I don’t even know where to begin with this review.  My first reaction is anger…What exactly is “my kind”?  You don’t know me; you don’t know what I am like.  You have no idea what my views are.  I will tell you this.  I am a woman who is completely 100% against abuse of any kind.  It is something that I do not find enjoyable, nor do I think it has any place in a relationship of any kind.  I am a woman who once was punched in the face by a boy she was dating.  He said it would never happen again, that he was drunk; yada, yada, yada.  I got out of the relationship in an instant, because I know that if he hit me once, he was more than capable of doing it again.  I am also a woman who is very broad-minded; I understand that there are different things that people can do while in a sexual relationship; hell, I’m a woman who has done many things in my sexual relationships.  I’m not going to discuss what I have done, because frankly, it’s none of your fucking business.  After reading this review, my first response was to simply tell you to fuck off.

After reading this review a second time, I was saddened.  Considering you have no idea what I intend to write in this outtake, you cannot make any judgments about its content.  As for sexual abuse, I WOULD NEVER write about that in terms of enjoyment.  Yes, you are right; there is a difference between sexual abuse and “overly sexual” situations.  And I’m sorry you took the word “punishment” as suggesting that Eric was going to abuse Sookie.  While yes, there are some sexual relationships that get off on pain, I do not find that enjoyable, nor would I write about that.  There is nothing abusive in having someone restrain you during consensual sex.  If done correctly, it can be highly erotic…trusting someone so completely that you are willing to put yourself in their hands with no restrictions.  It can be a very freeing experience; you should try it sometime if you find someone you can trust.  I urge people to try different things sexually; it will keep the spice in your relationship and it can be highly enjoyable.  Frankly, the idea of missionary for a lifetime is boring…routine…who wants that for the rest of their life?

After reading the review a third time, I felt a sense of resignation.  I am not going to be bullied by anonymous reviewers.  If you want to leave a review, you can, but they aren’t going to be posted.  That is my right as the author to decide what can and cannot be posted about my writing.  If you truly want me to consider what you have written, you need to sign in and leave your name to the review.  I find it very cowardly that you hide behind the name “guest”, because you think it will save you from having to deal with the repercussions of your actions.  If you want to have an open dialogue about my story, I am more than willing to do that; just keep in mind, you may not like what I have to say.  I will continue to write what I want and post it as long as I am inspired to do so.  If you have a problem with that, sorry, but I really don’t give a damn.

And my fourth feeling after reading this review is confusion.  This isn’t the first time I have hinted at a dominant in the sexual relationship between Eric and Sookie.  So I am left wondering, why are you still reading this story if you don’t like what I am writing?  That is ultimately what I cannot understand.  I find it baffling that you still follow this story.  Just so we are clear from here on out, there will be sexual content that includes themes of dominant behavior.  There may be bondage, the use of toys, orgasm denial, spanking (for pleasure, not pain), and any other fantasy that I think will be interesting.  Why?  BECAUSE I CAN….it’s fiction!  This is the ability to do things that we wouldn’t normally meet in our daily lives.  Do I honestly think people have sex five times a night?  Hell no, but its fantasy.  Why not write this relationship as such?  This is the opportunity to escape from our everyday lives…the ability to forget our jobs, our bills, our troubles and fears.  This is simply for entertainment and enjoyment.  Take it as such.  However, don’t expect everything to be sunshine and rainbows.  There will be some angst and/or violence.  Do I like angst and violence?  No.  However, it is a part of our everyday lives, and I don’t think it would be realistic to not have it in the story.

To everyone else, I am sorry you had to read this rant of mine.  I hope to have the next chapter up for you tonight to make up for this.  Thank you again for taking the time to read/follow/favorite any of my stories.

~Jess

About mistressjessica1028

What can I say? My little shipper heart hated how SVM and TB treated Eric, so I have made it my mission to create worlds where the Viking always gets the girl. :-)
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15 Responses to Something I need to get off my chest….

  1. duckbutt60 says:

    I’ve learned that guest reviewers are either trouble makers or just plain cowardly. Ignore then both….

  2. theladykt says:

    I took the comment to mean a playful “punishment”/ sex time. We all know that FFn has an aversion to anything sexual in nature (but allows abuse and violence in abundance). Ignore any guest reviewers. Anyone who can’t even take the time to sign in to a site isn’t worth your time. Guest reviews and their lack of policing of flames/bullies is just one of the reasons I no longer read there.

  3. lostinspace33 says:

    What an idiot! Without even addressing the ignorance of her/his review, let’s look at the fact that he/she was basically commenting on a story/chapter that hasn’t even been posted yet! And they’ve chosen to blast “potential” sexual abuse in fan fiction based on a book series containing strong sexual abuse themes (Bartlett’s abuse of Sookie and Hadley, Bill’s rape of Sookie, Appius’s longstanding abuse of Eric, and Tara’s abuse at the hands of Franklin and Mickey.) If you have such a major issue with sexual abuse themes, why on earth would you read the SVM series, much less fan fiction based on that series?!?

    But I agree with duckbutt about ignoring the review. Anyone who writes a negative review and doesn’t have the stones to put their name next to it, doesn’t deserve any of your time or consideration.

  4. naimademars says:

    Welcome to the club of writers harassed jess ! Yes welcome because it means that your story is famous and a lot of people love your story… and she displeases to others. Be proud of what you write , because those who try to intimidate you are just jealous.
    I also read several times all warnings you put on the content of your story, the problem is that some people when they see” Bdsm ” go into a trance , and want to impose their thoughts. As stated Lostinspace33 the original book svm deals abuse of the first volume to the last .
    It is quite logical that we talk about abuse in the fanfiction .

    The most famous of the fanfiction writers have had their share of hatred of these same people , we have to get used to, especially since they are quite immature to judge you without knowing you … and you’re right to eliminate their stupid and childish comments .

    Thank you for your story. please continue !

    • Hello naimademars!

      LOL….Famous? I never thought I would use that in the same sentence as one of my stories.

      I never expected for everyone to be a fan of my story. That would be absolutely ridiculous! However, I never expected for people to attack me as a person. I think that is what I find the most shocking about all of this.

      Trust me, I’ll keep writing for as long as the muse is with me.

      Thanks for your viewpoint!

  5. gwynwyvar says:

    I also read the ‘punishment’ as being a playful thing. And yes, i got the D/s undertones ;).

    Some people can’t separate BDSM from their image of abuse. And unfortunately there are a lot of fanfic writers writing from imagination that are not helping with the misunderstanding. On the other hand, there are some people that just can’t wrap their head around the difference, even if it is spelled out.
    If I was going to be completely unfair, I would label people in this mindset as a ‘kind’ who are small-minded puritans who would have gone well at persecuting witches. But I won’t because i know it’s not true. Some people don’t ‘get’ BDSM, and they don’t have to. Each to their own, and all that 🙂

    I can even respect someone that states that they believe BSDM is a form of abuse. I don’t agree, but if that is what they believe, who am i to judge them?
    However, when people push their own beliefs on others in an attempt to intimidate and belittle, they show themselves as ‘small-minded puritans’. And these people, especially if they hide behind a guest moniker, get no respect from me.

    I love your story Jess. And look forward to the out-take 😉 … Unless I missed… Did I miss it?
    Hope you have a great day!

    • No, you haven’t missed it. I am currently writing Chapter 37 because of wonderful people like you that deserve it for supporting me.

      I will post the outtake soon. I think that will be my priority after I get Chapter 37 done. I still owe people the next chapter of IHH, but I am more inspired to write ADL right now, so that is what I will focus on.

      Thanks again!

  6. Tynee23 says:

    Not the old ‘annon reviewer undermining bomb’. Gutless wonders I call them. Keep up the good work.

  7. Well if liking your story is because you are “that kind” of person, I am proud to be part of “your” kind!!! Jeez, harder to put in words than think in my head. Hope you get the point though ;p

  8. kleannhouse says:

    damn, your kind has a large list of great writers, BRAVO to your reaction and how you stated it, i too thought the punishment was play time nothing more. Keep writing your story the way you are and there are plenty of us who enjoy it for the fiction it is and we will keep reading… Kristie

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